Negativity Leaks: Are you unknowingly giving your energy to negativity?

Negativity Leaks are those subtle times you are unknowingly giving your energy to negativity.  Negativity is very sneaky. If I asked you about ways a parent, teacher or boss could energize negativity, you’d probably come up with things like yelling and hitting, and maybe in an extreme case throwing things. 

Those aren’t really leaks anyway. Negativity leaks are much more difficult to identify.  Maybe you’re even doing something traditionally seen as positive, but, actually you are leaking negativity.  It’s absolutely critical that you sniff those leaks out and extinguish them to the best of your ability, or at least smother the energetic flames. You see, as long as connected relationship remains available by way of negativity, true transformation will not take place.

The negativity leak I’m going to address today is Pep Talks and Lectures. I’m a recovering pep talker and lecturer, so this one is near and dear to my heart. You might be thinking, ok, lectures, I can see how those are negative, but pep talks? All I’m doing is giving encouragement when I’m giving a pep talk!

To help you understand this, I want you to think about your motivation when you’re delivering that pep talk. Are you really doing it because you believe that the receiver of your inspiring words CAN and WILL take the necessary action to achieve the outcome you so desire for them? Or are you giving that Pep Talk/Lecture because you fear that they can’t, or won’t???  And by the way, is it something they really desire for themselves, or are you trying to convince them that they SHOULD want it? ……… Either way, the energetic message your audience usually receives when you’re delivering one of these little gems is that you don’t have confidence that they are going to succeed without a little push from you.

So next time you find yourself really hoping and praying that someone important to you will just DO what they need to do, try noticing their smallest baby steps in the right direction and call them out on that! When you feel that oh so strong temptation to pep talk/check in/remind, reset yourself and remember that what you direct your energy to, you will get more of!

Beginning to wonder if maybe you’re leaking negativity? Want some help figuring that out? Email me today to see how I can help!